"This slur has been reclaimed" doesn’t mean everyone sees it that way, doesn’t mean it doesn’t still function as a slur, doesn’t mean it no longer carries the historical baggage of a slur and doesn’t mean it should be used by everyone without any regard for the feelings of those who it has been used against
ok listen it’s really nifty that “say your name and pronouns” is getting to be a thing in queer spaces but. lets talk about the etiquette for that if u are cis because i think maybe we should lay it bare, just so we’re all on the same page.
inappropriate things to say when asked for your pronouns
appropriate things to say when asked for your pronouns
*trans+ folks with no pronoun preference exist and u are beautiful twinkling diamonds shine on, friend, shine on
when cis people say “use any pronouns I don’t care” or similar it feels like a slap in the face
it’s disingenuous because you are in a position of privilege where you are accustomed to a certain set of pronouns and not having to assert your gender identity, and aren’t hurt by the assumptions people make about the pronouns you use. unlike noncis people who ask for people to use many/any pronouns, you don’t need this to explore or assert your gender/lack thereof. it also comes across as a way to avoid establishing yourself as cis.
it is of course another deal if you want to try out different pronouns but that’s very different from saying “use any”/”it doesn’t matter.”
also if you’re cis please don’t say “i use male/female pronouns”
because some people aren’t men and use he/him, and some people aren’t women and use she/her
(Source: katyglyndwr-oldblog, via foxmulderplayingbasketball)